Have you ever felt inadequate or discontent after browsing your social media feeds or visiting with family or friends? Sometimes it can be difficult to shake off these nagging feelings and sets you on an endless path of wanting, which leads to an unsatisfied life.
“Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it is.”
- Mandy Hale
You Need MORE, you Must Be MORE
Social platforms link us with people from all races and classes. This increases the probability of you seeing people who seemingly have better lives than you. This causes you to compare your life, income, body or happiness to those we see on social media to varying degrees. Our brains start to disregard what we have or have accomplished once we grow accustomed to it. Thus, there will always be someone luckier, prettier or richer with better stuff, that is more accomplished than you.
There are many other ways we compare ourselves with others. We do this in our social interactions as well, though this may not have such a big impact as social media. The reason for this is that the group of people we are surrounded with are usually quite small in comparison. We also tend to be friends with people who are like-minded and more or less from the same income group. Social media brings the whole world into this equation, which causes us to fall into this trap much easier.
One of the most difficult things to do is to choose a road less travelled that goes against the unspoken (or sometimes spoken) rules that are placed on us by society, our culture or even ourselves. Sometimes we tend to think that there is a binding timeline that we must stick to, otherwise, we are falling behind in life in some way. We need to make a certain amount of money, we need to be married and have children, we need to have accomplished certain things by a certain age. This is simply not true. This might be cliché but true: “It’s not about the destination, but all about the ride.”
Enjoy your life, live out loud and follow your dreams! Don’t tie your hands behind your back with invisible rules. Live a happy life, whatever that might look like to you. If you are happy, that is enough. There’s no need to chase after things that might be expected of you, or that might be shoved down your throat by social media. You only have one life to live and it’s not worth wasting it on always wanting or lacking the next thing.
A Grateful Heart
Having an attitude of gratefulness is as important as breathing. The feeling of contentment must be one of the best in the world. Being satisfied, not wanting more or less. Contentment does not result from having everything you desire but stems from being grateful for what you have. It can be found at any and every stage in life whether you’re rich or poor, young or old and everything in between. It’s not about accomplishments, achievements, possessions, money or where you are but it’s a state of mind.
At the base of wanting more and more is feelings of discontentment and not having enough or being enough. These feelings do not arise from the actual desirability of the things you want but from your mental state. If you are grateful for what you have, you already have exactly what you need.
“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”
- Dale Carnegie
You don’t really need more, many of us can maybe do with less. More won’t make you happy. You don’t have to be more. You don’t have to be at a certain place in your life. Happiness comes from within, from a grateful attitude. Make time as often as you can to think about the things that you are grateful for.
“Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.”
- Og Mandino